© 2004 Choice to Live With
Made by Serif
You might be feeling like your circumstances are forcing you into a decision you don't totally want. The logical question is, "Is there really anything that I can do about my situation?" Yes there is! Information is often the key to get rid of any fear you might be having. A lot of that fear comes from being in an unknown and unwanted situation. Talking about feelings and beliefs is a great starting point, but now we need to delve into the concrete concerns you might be facing. Click on any of the following concerns to see possible solutions and explanations.
Your Concerns
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Where will I get the things I'll need for a baby?
Where can I go for financial help?
I don't qualify for government help, now what?
Would the father be able to take my baby away? What about the grandparents?
I'm going to school
I'm working.
Will this ruin my chances with another man?
Will this ruin my chances at a good career?
Will this ruin my chances to start/finish school?
My parents will really be mad at me.
I'm being pressured or forced into having this baby.
My husband/boyfriend will leave me if I have this baby.
I feel embarrassed to be a single parent.
This is just bad timing.
I'm not ready to be a mom.
I have terrible morning sickness.
I am afraid of labor and childbirth.
I do not have any health insurance.
I don't have any money. What kind of costs can I expect?
Something might be wrong with the baby.
I just had a baby!
I have too many kids.
I'm too old to have a baby.
I'm done having kids.
I have health concerns.
I have had an abortion before and it seems like I don't deserve a child.
There are just too many things to think about. I'm tired.
The father of this baby is a married man.
I have a problem with drinking/smoking/doing drugs.
I'm on medication that isn't good for a developing baby.
How do I tell the father? My parents?
I wanted to be able to stay at home and raise my kids.
Will being pregnant ruin my body?
Everyone will know that I had sex out of wedlock.
Will I feel sadness or depression after the abortion?
Will an abortion affect my future fertility?
Will the baby feel pain?
How developed is the baby?
How much does an abortion cost?
I'm scared that someone will find out what I've done.
I'm being pressured/forced into having an abortion.
The father of the baby really wants me to keep it.
I haven't told the father, should I?
I've had a previous abortion.
What if I change my mind?
I think I need an abortion, but it just feels wrong.
I have other kids.
What do I need to do before schedualing a termination?
Do I need an ultrasound?
How do I know what type of abortion I should have?
What is the difference between a surgical abortion and a medical abortion?
How much does an abortion cost?
Do my parents need to know?
Do I have to be awake for the procedure?
Does the abortion procedure hurt? How will I feel afterwords?
When will my period start again/how soon am I at risk for getting pregnant again?
What if I change my mind once I'm at the hospital/clinic or the procedure has began?
Is abortion safe?
Will having more than one abortion affect my future fertility?
Will I suffer PASS after the abortion?
I'm concerned about my relationship with God.
My religion says abortion is wrong.
I'm scared that someone will find out I've had an abortion.
I'm being pressured/forced into having an abortion.
I don't want to have an abortion, but I need to.
I can't just give my baby away.
Should I choose an open or closed adoption?
Will I feel guilty about giving my baby away?
How much will it cost me to give my baby up for adoption?
What are the rights of the father if I want to give my baby up for adoption?
What if I change my mind?
I don't have any health insurance.
I don't have anywhere to live.
I have a problem with drinking/smoking/ doing drugs.
I'm on medication that isn't good for a developing baby.
I'm afraid of labor and childbirth.
Will the baby hate me for not keeping it?
How do I know the baby will be placed with a good family?
How much control do I have in choosing a family?
Can I have any contact with my baby?
How might the child react to hearing they were adopted?
How difficult is it emotionally to place a child for adoption?
What are adoptive parents like?
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